This will be another "opinion" piece. And yes, since it is my blog, it will be my opinion. I suspect it will make me seem "old" or at least "old fashioned" but I can live with that. :)
One of the things I'm sure psychologists have a field day with in SL is our ability to create our own "look". Shape, skin, hair, eyes, fur, scales ...whatever we wish. The way we portray ourselves says a lot about what we think of ourselves now or how we wish we were. This breeds, among other things, a type of narcissism. Many residents become obsessed with appearance. You'll notice that we bloggers post a lot of photos of ourselves - mostly I think because we're happy with the way we look. My avatar is pretty close to the RL me in form but she is prettier, younger and has much better hair. :)
Another interesting thing about SL is that, in general, we identify with our avatars. We don't think "I'll just move my avatar over there". No, we think "I'll go over there." Because we do identify with them, the way we dress our avatars and the way we behave says a lot about the inner us.
A female avatar showed up on my island yesterday (my PG island) dressed in a cowboy hat, tight vest, boots, chaps and a g-string. That's right ... chaps and a g-string. I've thought about this a lot in the hours since and reached 3 possible conclusions:
- She was a hooker looking for customers. Which would be pretty dumb on my island - I would expect her to have better business prospects in Zindra.
- "She" is a man in real life with a female avatar. Now, a number of men I know do this and there's nothing wrong with it. But every now and then you see a female avatar that you're sure is not a female in real life. The physical proportions are too exaggerated and their clothes take skank to a whole new level. In this case, as in those, they are men who don't "like" women. Oh they want them - and they lust after them, but they don't "like" women and they certainly don't respect them.
- The third possibility is that it's a woman in real life who doesn't respect herself. Hanging your vajajay out for the world to see while you're shopping is not a sign of high self esteem.
If you don't respect yourself then why would anybody else? So as a simple homework exercise - look at your avatar. Think about what you want others to see. If you don't see it - well, then maybe you need to reconsider some of your choices.